Child Custody and Seeing Your Kids

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Child custody has several forms, sole custody, and joint custody. Sole custody means one parent gets physical as well as legal custody. Joint custody is another type of child custody, where both parents get the right to have a share in making decisions for the child. There is also a type of joint custody where the child gets to stay for some period with each of the parents. However, it is said that this can be a bit confusing for the child.

It is necessary that joint custody that both parents are co-operating with each other regarding decision making about the child. It all depends on how the divorce proceedings have been, in case of a bitter divorce and conflict; it might be better that sole custody of the child is awarded to a single parent.

It is required by the state laws that whichever type of custody is granted; it is necessary that it should be in the best interests of the child. Unlike in earlier times, when mother was taken as the correct person to raise a child, today the court looks at the fact and selects the parent who has been playing an active role in raising the child.

The court allows periodical visitation rights to the parent who has not been awarded physical custody of the child; these visits take place at the home of the parent who has not been given the physical custody. However, the court might not give any rights to visitation if there is fear of any physical harm or abuse in the history of parents, the court instead of denying entirely might give supervised visitation charges.

In cases where there are allegations of abuse, especially sexual abuse hurled at one another by each parent, the court can give further instructions for investigation in case it is in doubt of these charges. Though there have been many instances where an accusation of abuse has been used to get more money or to harm the spouse’s reputation.

However, if the charge of child abuse does not hold true in someone’s case, he should not be silent about the issue and should try to gain help from several organizations which provide advice, support and sometimes legal advice. One such organization is VOCAL (Victims of Child Abuse Laws).

According to the law, visitation rights and child support payments are different issues, therefore though visitation has not been allowed one is required to pay. The court, while giving the custody of the child might take a view of ‘in best interests of the child’ where it considers several factors.

Most times both parents agree that the mother should get custody, but times are changing across the board and men are gaining more custody recently.